At what point do a woman say: I have had enough, this isn’t working! At what point do you realize that all the cover ups and patching won’t hold much longer.
Ex-spice girl Melanie Janine Brown, better known as Mel B just filed for divorce recently after 10 years of marriage with film producer Stephen Belafonte.
This news was greeted with mixed reactions from cross section of people. Most who have always suspected that all was not well with the couple’s union were not surprised at this news, as there has been suspicions of domestic abuse which Mel B’s husband had at one time responded ‘’I’m not disputing it’’ at the abuse claims
However to some others this news came as a surprise judging by how the couple has always come out to thrash any rumours of unrest in their union, and just six weeks ago, Mel posted a gushing Instagram showing her kissing her husband’s cheek – and paid tribute to the strength of their union, despite these strings of controversies.
She wrote: “my baby boo we have been through everything that would normally tear couples apart and we have come out on the other side stronger, you loved me before I even knew how to really love myself, you are my world honey”.
Belafonte also sang praises of Mel on January 30 writing “When you get a facetime call from super sexy and talented star @officialmelb from the longest running broadway show @chicagomusical and you realize how lucky of a hubby I am.”
Aside the “irreconcilable differences”, no further reason has been given for the split. So where did it all go wrong for these two?
The truth is, marriage has been less than smooth for Mel and Belafonte. Throughout their marriage, Mel has had to defend her husband’s past.
She jumped to his defense when it emerged that he had battered his common-law wife Nicole during a drunken row at their home in 2003.
The film producer attacked the mother of his daughter Giselle, now 13, in what was described as a ‘malicious and unlawful’ drunken frenzy.
The rumours and suspicions of domestic abuse has been quite strong over the years, yet Mel B kept doing what Mel B has done over the years: denying all of it, putting up appearances and always defending her husband, always singing his praise.
While partying with Mel in 2010, Belafonte was involved in a fight with three men at the luxury five star May Fair Hotel.One man was left needing hospital treatment following the incident.
But Mel yet again, stood by her feisty husband despite his violent tendencies, claiming he was only acting in her defense.
The X factor judge, Mel B returned for the last show on December 14, 2014 with bruises and scratches on her face and arms, sparking worry among fans.
It was reported at the time that Mel had left Belafonte before she was rushed to hospital with stomach pains, which caused her to miss the first live show, during The X Factor final weekend in 2014.
Belafonte’s brother Jeremiah Stansbury blasted the producer as ‘violent and ruthless’ and urged Mel to leave him.
But Belafonte vehemently denied all suggestions of domestic abuse and the couple once again appeared to patch things up as usual.
“My husband is my best friend and we know each other so well that we know what we are getting, but there are always rumours that we are splitting up.” The singer said. She added: “Stephen is a bit crazy, but then I am a bit crazy, so it kind of evens itself out.”
What makes Mel think that two crazy people living together “evens” out?
At what point was she ever going to realize that the patch ups was only a matter of time.
Why did Mel have to go through all these domestic abuse and still yet come out openly to sing her husband’s praises, why did she have to go through all the trouble?
But then again I think one of her comments says it all.
According to her: “I’ve already had one failed marriage so I definitely don’t want to have another one.”
And there you have it! There you have one of the reasons why not just Mel, but most women remain in a deadly union till it claims their life.
There is nothing wrong in standing by your husband in adversity, nothing wrong in covering up lapses in your marriage, but when it involves serious domestic abuse, in the end you’ve got to ask yourself: is it worth it? It could be your corpse lying on the floor the next time, so is it really worth it? All the cover ups, all the patch ups, all the lies, all the defending him in public, so that you won’t have yet another failed marriage in the offing, is it worth it?
2, 3, 4 Failed marriages or your life, make your choice!