Living In A Society Where, Culture,Traditions And Beliefs Mask Abuse.

Living In A Society Where, Culture,Traditions And Beliefs Mask Abuse.


There is a deep cultural belief in Nigeria that it is socially acceptable to discipline a spouse by beating her.  Sadly  some women in fact see this as the man caring for them, “He BEATS ME BECAUSE HE LOVES ME” while some others see it as a fatherly love.

Some women on getting married begin to see and address their spouse as their father thereby whatever form of punishment is being melted out to them is very acceptable and well justified.  This kind of believe based on culture and norms without a shade of doubt opens many women to all kinds of abuse, exploitation and being seen and treated as lesser beings within their homes and immediate community.

The CLEEN Foundation reports 1 in every 3 respondents admitting to being a victim of domestic violence. The survey also found a nationwide increase in domestic violence in the past three years from 21% in 2011 to 30% in 2013. A CLEEN Foundation’s 2012 National Crime and Safety Survey demonstrated that 31% of the national sample confessed to being victims of domestic violence.


Domestic violence takes many forms including physical sexual, emotional, and mental. Traditionally, domestic violence is committed against females. Common forms of violence against women in Nigeria are rape, acid attacks, molestation, wife beating, and corporal punishment.

25 per cent of women in Nigeria have gone through ordeal of domestic violence. The worst forms of them are battering, trafficking, homicide and rape. Rape within the family circle, a lot of teenagers, both male and female have been sexually molested by trusted family members or housemaids.

Report claims, a woman who is abused in her family, has very low chances to get protection from law. In most cases the victim of domestic violence is mistreated by law and dehumanized by society. The general conception is, it’s a family matter and should be resolved within the family circle.

Domestic violence is widespread and shows no signs of lessening in Nigeria. Up to 43 per cent of women thought that wife beating could be justified on the grounds of matters like

Burning the food;

Arguing with the husband;

Going out without asking permission;

Neglecting the children; and

Refusal to have sexual intercourse.


The research showed that women in the North East were more likely to say that wife beating was justified, while women in the South West were least likely to say that wife beating was justified.  Women with no education were more likely to say that wife beating was justified.  Rural men were more likely to say that wife beating on any of the above-mentioned grounds was justified.  Men with a secondary education were less likely to justify wife beating than men with less education.


That study further showed that educated women were more likely to have experienced domestic violence.  Further women who live in urban areas are more likely than their counterparts who live in rural areas to have experienced domestic violence.  Women in the southern part of the country were also more likely to have experienced physical violence more than women in the northern part of the country.


The Gender in Nigeria, 2012 report also indicated that young women between the ages of 15 and 24, were most likely to have experienced physical violence.  They were also most likely to justify violence, including wife beating.

( Source; wikipedia )


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By Iphie Belonwi For UnbrokenChords