CHRIS BAMIDELE: Why the most faithful of women are likely to cheat

CHRIS BAMIDELE: Why the most faithful of women are likely to cheat


I  know that there seems to be a general consensus that married women rarely cheat especially in this part of the world, because they respect the institution of marriage more than men and most would not risk their marriages just because of some lousy illicit affair. But when women cheat, there must be a reason; which is why if a man found out his wife has cheated on him, the first question in his mind would most likely be “Why did she do it?” unlike a woman that would simply say “Men are born to cheat…” like she is expecting it somehow.

The reason(s) why women cheat differs from woman to another. Some do it for love, some just for sex, some need a boost in their self-esteem and some are just wired to be unfaithful. But I believe that the reason behind the cheating is not as important as cheating itself; because for me, when you cheat on your married partner, there is no reason enough to justify the action. But since life is still about causes and effects.

 The chances of an emotionally depraved woman to cheat is always on the high side. A couple of years ago, I met a woman, the one you could describe as a ‘Christian wife’ who was looking and willing to cheat on her husband with me. I declined because it was against my personal principle, but I tried to find out why she would want to do that while still in the marriage.

She explained that she and her husband had no child, but they were both working hard to have every good thing money can buy and live a prestigious lifestyle that would make them happy. They eventually did but at some point, the man completely neglected her, the romance and emotional attachment to their marriage was gone and the attachment was now solely on the things they had acquired over the years and trying to sustain.

Then the wife became lonely and needing attention, even as they were still looking for a child and believing God for a miracle. She complained that she’d consider herself lucky if they had sex once in 2 months as the man was always out of the country making more money and probably cheating on her. I tried to advise her, but don’t ask me what my advice was, because I won’t tell. So, the thing here is, when a woman feels lonely and she no longer feels emotional attachment to her husband, she might just go looking for it elsewhere.

Low self esteem is can make a saintly woman to cheat. Whether we accept it or not, we all need some form of validation, it does something to our psyche especially in a loving relationship or marriage. And when a woman gets married to a man who takes her and the marriage for granted, and he suddenly does not see the sexy and attractive woman he married anymore, but just a mother, a housekeeper and someone who keeps the family running smoothly.


The woman might soon start feeling she is no longer sexy, beautiful or desirable, and before long, her self-esteem is in the gutter. Then she becomes a sitting duck for another man who compliments her, shows interest in her emotionally, tells her constantly that she is beautiful, looks at her and sees something other than just a mother, a housekeeper and a wife. A woman who had sunk into the level of low self-esteem may find herself willing to throw caution to the wind in order to find the validation she needs and she’s not getting in the marriage…Still more factors that can make the most faithful of women to cheat.

The naked truth is, most women that cheat, especially the married women do because of the attitude of their spouses. When you treat your woman like some piece of furniture, just like a decorative ornament, the fact is, she becomes vulnerable to the male predators. Trust me, there are men who are specialist in seducing lonely vulnerable women. Men, wake up! Treat your the women in your lives like the queens they are.


  1. women are lovely and adorable, women are Queens not slaves or punchings bags, Women have soft spot when it comes to taking care of their husbands, woman are helping mate to men just the Bible tells us. so pls men treat women like gold.

  2. Cheating, women cheat too.. But outta ten women that cheat, 1% does it for the sex, another 1 percent for self-esteem… But the rest do for love. Sex is always not just physical to women like it is to men.