IN A HOME WHERE A FEMALE CHILD IS PLACED IN SECOND PLACE.
When you are born and live in a society that puts value to preference for one gender over the other, where the girl child is continually reminded of her place in the family and society. where the male child is given all available resources to better himself, where the girl child is constantly reminded that her prospect of a better tomorrow lies with her future spouse.
Yes I have witnessed to the girl child being withdrawn out from school because there was not enough funds for her as the boys needed to come first. The fact this girl child was more intelligent was not even considered .
What right has the girl child to fight for equality when she has already being made to feel less important by the very people that should never have created any air of inequality.
where is her voice, how’s she meant to find her place and right, she’s meant to take her rightful place in society, not have to fight or struggle for “gender equality”
The very foundation of the girl child understanding of who she is, how she is seen and treated by society, her place, her worth, her abilities have already being clouded by how who she was made to see of her, where her position is, first the responsible people in her formative years.
A sense of being as ingrained in the mindset of the girl child by the responsible people in her life from her early years, would give the girl child the stronghold foundation and voice. To stand on the same podium equal to the male gender without any sense of feeling less, with no expectations to be treated less. Simply put, some families are playing the lead role in gender inequality before communities and the society at large follow.
I am not a scholar or a researcher, I’m the everyday average woman. Don’t ask me where I got my facts from, we all know this is what obtains in some homes. I know the culture and beliefs I was born into. I see the African girl child daily struggle to be given the same voice and platform as the male child.
Do not be deceived, this gender attitude is present even in developed nations, only there is a big difference. Gender discrimination in work places, yes, hardly ever played out but its there. You hardly ever find or witness outright gender discrmination, should i even call it that, i don’t know, where the girl child are openly disrespected, treated with little or no regard, where the male child feels the right to demand for respect from the girl child is his birthright as a male child.
My country Nigeria, for example, where the average mindset of the male child is, women should be seen, not heard, in some cases not seen except called to be seen, mostly common in the rural and urban poor communities.
Yes, some women have had to work to earn a place and respect, but please we still know, no mattar the position of a woman, we know the unspoken thoughts of the man standing next to her.
Does this really bother any accomplished woman, NO… so long your head is where those thoughts are kept, I hold my position, like it or not you will respect me and carry out my order as your boss.
what about the girl child thats not being able to earn a place of respect in the society ? This is what happens to them, they are being openly disrespected by men, treated openly like second class citizens, demanded of to be submissive and respectful by men who don’t know, neither understand what the concept of respect is about.
The girl child and women are being treated like common dirt. how do i know this or why do i say this? You only have to look at how men are quick to beat up young girls and women in broad daylight with hundreds of people witnessing. when asked why they are beating a woman, hear this, ‘ she was insulting me or she disrespected me or i beat her because she was talking anyhow.
Soldiers are well known to beat women at the slightest provocation. A soldier beat up a young girl a few months back for daring to laugh and chat on with friends when the bus she was travelling in was stopped for checks, he felt disrespected…really! The truth is men daily beat up women in Nigeria at any flimsy excuse. There is hardly ever any reprisal. Pathetic!!
The girl child is a continued subject of abuse in all forms and kinds. You hardly don’t need to look further why domestic abuse and violence is common occurrence.
A girl child growing up , and all you ever hear your father talk about, is how he wish he had a boy , how would you feel ? I was fortunate to have a father who did not care about the gender of his children, all he cared for was for us to have the best he could provide.
“I Think Men Should Place Same Value On The Female Child As They Place On The Male Child”
This above comment left by a visitor to our page on facebook is the best summary of it all. Lets all be honest the truth is right there in the comment, its common knowledge and we know it, the average man in Africa do not hide their preference for the male child. we are very much aware of marriages breaking up on this ground, some men have extra marital affairs in quest of the male child. Some women become victims of abuse mainly because of their inability to give birth to the much valued and awaited male child. Topic for another day.
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