How My Uncle Raped Me And My Sister From Age 8 To...

How My Uncle Raped Me And My Sister From Age 8 To 17, Diary Of A Teenager

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I was raped by my uncle when I was just 8 years old. I was clueless to what he was doing to me at the time that till I got to my late adolescent age I didn’t speak up. He was my dad’s brother, charged with the responsibility of taking care of me and my siblings while my mum and dad were away at work.

I had just three siblings at the time, of which two were girls and one was a boy, with me being the eldest. Our parents were always out hustling so they brought our uncle from the village to take care of us. On that level of trust that my parents had for him. We even used to refer to him as our second daddy. Believe me when in say he was nothing but a monster.

Every time my parents were around he would be the so caring, you would think he was heaven sent and he could do no harm to us, but once they were gone he would look for the slightest opportunity to have his way with me.

He would give my younger siblings money to go out and buy stuff that wasn’t even sold around (sending them on a wild goose chase), telling them not to come back till they got it. Or another of his tactics was giving them permission to go play leaving me with him.

He would rape me incessantly till I couldn’t take it anymore and wanted to scream or fight him, but he was way bigger than I was and would simply hold me down and cover my mouth. After he was done with me he would put a knife to my neck and threaten me, telling me all sorts of horrible things he would do to me if I spoke out.

This vile act continued to my late teens. I was distraught, I felt alone, substandard, I started hating men in general, and didn’t relate well with them, I was in pains but I was also scared to tell anybody. I mean, how do you start to explain something like that. I wasn’t that close to my mum to just go over and be like “hey mum, dad’s brother has been raping me since I was 8, and I didn’t tell you then because I was scared”.

I couldn’t talk to friends because I felt they would see me as filthy. Neither was I able to talk to my siblings about it, I mean they looked up to me. Besides the only thing they would be able to do was to report to my parents, which at that time I felt wasn’t good because I didn’t know how they would react. I thought they would see me as a disappointment so I decided to keep my mouth shut and fight my battle myself.

At 17, I started fighting back more, and this beast of a uncle saw I wasn’t easy prey anymore due to the fact I was growing up and could fight harder now. I thought he would simply stop his ways and for a time I thought he did, until it dawned to me that he might be doing same to my vulnerable little sisters.

I didn’t know why but I felt uneasy when I had to leave him alone with them and go to school or somewhere else. I didn’t know how to ask them about it. I mean, what was I going to say? One of them was about 4 and the other was 8(same age I was when he started having his way with me).

At that moment I knew I was at the crossroads, I had 2 options. I could both shut up and let my sisters go through what I went through; or I could speak up and let this beast, this pedophile that calls himself my uncle be caught. I decided to go with option 2. Nobody has to go through what I went through.

 

However, in as much as I had made the decision of exposing this pedophile, I still didn’t know how to present it to my parents face to face.

Then an idea came to me; since I couldn’t face them, I wrote all about what my uncle had been doing to me since I was 8 and how he had threatened to kill me if I spoke out. I left the note on a table I knew my mother would find it and I went off to school, and luckily she did. By the time I got back she had informed my dad and both of them sat me down and asked me about it.

I confirmed everything but to my surprise when my uncle was called, he called me a liar and a witch. My dad decided to ask my younger sisters about it and you won’t imagine, he had started with my sister of 8 already. She told my mum and dad about how he had been luring her too and forcing her. At that moment he knew the game was over and ran away.

No matter what they did to him I knew he had already done the worst, I blamed myself for not speaking up sooner and subjecting my little sister to such vile acts.

That day it occurred to me that if I hadn’t spoken up, If I didn’t report him, my sister might have never had the nerve to report him either. He would have used her and transferred to my even smaller sister.

I keep telling people of my story to warn them of the consequence of not speaking out. Rapists, especially pedophiles are beasts. You can’t reason with a beast, it is in their nature to always prey on the weak. If he does it to you and you don’t report him so he can be stopped, he is definitely going to keep doing it to other people.WE SALUTE YOUR COURAGE #AlotusVoice

 

13 COMMENTS

  1. Infact this horrible exprince young woman growing to exprince. Her life being robbed by this monsters. Africa should wake up to this issues and defend this victims for this horror of taking away the joy of life of one human being. All women should support this issues to uproot this weakedness in the society for this victims many of this things are happening we women need to support the society. This could be your daughter, sister anyone. Please let us fight for Juctice for the victim of rape. No woman should go through this horrifying situation in their life. LET US FIGHT FOR JUSTICE FOR WOMEN ABUSY FROM THIS MONISTERS.

  2. It Is The Fault Of D Parent Y Would On Dis Earth Bring A Man To Their House Wat Do Dey Expect Him To Do Dis Is A Leason To All D Parent Take Care Of Ur Children Ur Self And Stop Bringing House Boy And Girl Be Worf

  3. You are very right, parents need to be wary of the kind of people they bring into their homes, especially where children are invovled.

  4. Yeah, it’s very heartbreaking to hear of issues lyk this. We all need to stand up and fight against this abuse. Parents are advised to develop a friendly relationship with their kids, so that the kids can trust them with every issue

  5. I dnt knw y nigerian parent cease 2 be realistic. Any bussiness or job dat does not permit you to look after your children especially the females should be quitted. You should be your children best friend and dont let your job take their place #BALANCE THE EQUATION!

  6. So sad,parents should always be there for kids even when u are the busy type of parents.always makes sure u check on ur kids after ur busy day, have a chat with ur children daily, especially ur daughters. It helps to know what might be going on.

  7. Firstly I will blame the parents especially the mum even if the dad is not close to the children the mum should.if the mum was closed to them am sure these wouldn’t have happen.you are busy working to take care of your family while someone is there destroying your kids.we mother you really need to have time for your kids no matter how small it is so when ever they are facing some challenges they can boldly walk Upchurch to you and talk to you not seeing it the other way round.
    Pay attention to your children. Thanks

  8. It’s the parent, nothing more
    The deed has been done
    Just live your life to the fullest, succeed, and ensure not to make same mistakes your parents did

  9. hmm I know everybody will be awarded accordingly on judgment day.
    the way we the men are harassing the young girls is not fair.

  10. Some men are predators. They can put their penis in any available vagina no matter the age of the girl. Parents especially mothers wake up to your responsibility.

  11. Comment:We should stop putting our children under d care of anybody,protect ur children expercially d female ones,protect ur children with greed nd jealousy,nd try to build mutual relationship with ur children, as 4 those of u dat are fund of abusing people’s children while u protect urs like gold continue u will receive ur reward in due season…. lets fight against child rape..

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