Pedophilia. This is a term used to refer to a psychiatric disorder in which an adult or older adolescent experiences a primary or exclusive sexual attraction to prepubescent children.
Statistics show that an estimate ranging from one to an astounding 20% of the population are pedophiles. What many do not know is that there are pedophiles in the world who do not molest children and probably never will. People who fall in this category are referred to as non-offending pedophiles.
Note that a pedophile and a child molester are not one and the same. Not all pedophiles are child molesters and not all child molesters are pedophiles.
A pedophile is someone who is sexually attracted to a child but a child molester is one that has abused a child. A pedophile is not a child molester until he acts on his fantasies but he is a pedophile regardless of whether or not he acts on these fantasies.
In a survey, 18% of males admitted to having sexual fantasies about children, 8% said they’d masturbate to those fantasies and 4% said they’d have sex with a child if they could get away with it.
Did you know there are enough pedophiles worldwide to keep four million child porn websites in business. Consider the fact that not every pedophile will take to watching child porn, which indicates the scary fact that there are a lot more pedophiles in the world than you initially thought.
One of the world’s leading scientists who studies on the brains of pedophiles, Dr James Cantor carried out MRI experiments on convicted pedophiles and identified physical differences in their brain matter from normal, regular people. He concluded that pedophilia is not a choice or as a result of previous abuse perpetrated on the ‘patient’.
What about non-offending pedophiles? As earlier stated in the definition of the term, this is a psychiatric disorder. Shouldn’t these mentally disturbed folk be given medical attention like people with Dissociative Identity Disorder or Psychosis? Currently, the ONLY ‘pedo rehab’ is located in Germany; Prevention Project Dunkelfeld provides free confidential treatment to anyone who is attracted to kids or teenagers but the big issue here is, WOULD CRADLE ROBBERS ADMIT THEY HAVE A PROBLEM AND SEEK HELP?
Should the fact that pedophiles have mental health issues warrant the normal populace treat pedophilia with levity? No way. It is disheartening when people compare pedophilia with homosexuality. These two are very different. The fact that they are both termed unnatural does not make them one and the same.
Homosexual relations are consensual between two parties but pedophilia involves one predator carrying out sexual acts on an unwilling child. Sometimes, people have the temerity to allude to the fact that some underage kids consent to sexual relations with adults and this somehow makes it alright.
That is very untrue. According to law, a minor CANNOT give consent to indulging in sexual relations with an adult; with the exception of Romeo and Juliet law, where the two parties are only a few years apart, maybe one is 15 and the other 18 or 19.
A case where an elderly man raped his 11-year-old granddaughter went viral because of the defense of the old man who claimed that the girl ‘seduced’ him a couple of times and kept ‘begging for more’. I cringed with disgust on hearing this but some people left comments on the blog saying that kids of nowadays are ‘spoilt’ and the man may have been telling the truth. To hear any sane person make or believe an excuse for pedophilia is downright shocking.
Society needs to start treating pedophilia with the seriousness it deserves. Children have rights that need to be protected. But how do you ensure your kids are safe and protected from these kiddie fiddlers?
IDENTIFYING A CRADLE ROBBER
When you talk about a pedophile, some imagine a disgusting old man with a pot-belly but that is inaccurate. A pedophile can be a very good looking young man or woman. It could be Aunt Sophia, the nanny who cares for the kids when the parents are away at work. It could be the young 20-something-year-old handyman. It could be Cousin Mike who’s in college or that cheerful teen next door. Anybody, I repeat for emphasis, ANYBODY can molest your child.
These child molesters are almost always people you entrust your kids to or feel comfortable leaving your kids with. Blood relationship does not matter to a pedophile. They take advantage of your trust to carry out series of abuse on your child.
Trust is the major motivator a pedophile relies on to harm your kid. The singular fact that you trust them blindly gives them the boldness to abuse your child over and over again and what’s worse? You may never find out and that child will grow up to be resentful and damaged.
The sad truth is that there is no sure-fire way to detect a pedophile. They appear to lead perfectly normal lives and may even be role models in the community. You just have to look out for the warning signs in your kids.
-Change in child’s behaviour
-Poor academic performance at school
-Abrupt mood swings or aggressive behavior
-Child has unexplained new toys, clothes, edibles and/or money
-Child suddenly exhibits age-inappropriate sexual behavior or uses sexually offensive language
-Nightmares or signs of unexplained fear
Most reported cases of pedophilia stemmed from parents paying attention to these factors. If anyone, adult or child is being molested, there is bound to be behavioral anomalies. Pay attention to your child, protect them from molestation. Do not completely entrust your kid to anyone, no matter who it may be.
Always report any case of child molestation. If a pedophile; offending or non-offending does not admit they have a problem and seek psychiatric help, then we should not spare them when they carry out dastardly acts of abuse on minors.